I like to entertain. We have often said that our next house will be purchased with an eye toward entertaining, since our current one really lacks a good flow for it. We’ve thrown quite a few shindigs since we started living here together, and most of them have been pretty laid back affairs, so I didn’t really care if anyone told me in advance whether they were coming or not.
But then we began wedding planning, and then not long after that came baby showers and a few miscellaneous showers and parties thrown for friends. And now I’m in the throes of first birthday party planning. All three require a fair amount of RSVP action, just so the host or the couple knows how many are attending, so they can make sure there’s enough food and such. And yet, after a nearly three year span of these events, I have to wonder – are RSVPs hopelessly old fashioned?
The wedding RSVPs were fairly easy to get, actually. People are still used to letting the couple know if they’ll be there. But more informal gatherings that still need head counts? In my experience, it takes a lot of WORK to get RSVPS. And forget about just assuming the non responders won’t show – because they totally will. And it seems that I’m not the only one who has had issues, judging from this collection of responses regarding whether RSVPs are necessary.
So what’s been your experience? Are you a RSVP abider, or a shirker? Do you ask for them with your party invites? And what do you do if not many RSVP?